I think some people look for a partner that will accompany them in hiding from the truth. These people feel that staying in constant minimal pain is better then facing the truth, and going through the REAL pain to get to the light at the end of the tunnel.
These people in turn feel that people who are comfortible with themselves, and have went through that big pain are their enemy, because alls they see is that you are leading them to BIGGER pain, not the fact that you're trying to take them through the only way that will make them truly happy. They see facing the truth as a bad thing, and going through that real pain as a bad thing, in turn, they see you as an enemy. Even if facing the truth will get you to where you want to be.
Stay away from these people. Only so many chances can be given till you have to realize you're somewhere where your not loved, or welcomed. You made the choice to fight hard for what you are and what you believe in, it's not your responsibility to get dragged down with people who don't want to do the same.