There's a difference between a parent simply being strict, and parental abuse.
Being strict, is:
- You can still take music lessons if you want.
- You can take karate lessons if you want. And if you decide you don't like it, you can quit and move on.
BuuUUt, maybe you have to go to bed early, and are demanded to throw the garbage out.
Abuse, is when:
- A parent is trying to prevent there child from doing anything. Even things that will help them advance socially, or academically.
In closing, a real parent may be a pain in the a$$, but does not try to take your life, and growing process away.
Parental abuse is real, and is the reason why so maybe children turn to negative influences on the TV and radio, and even negative influences in school; certain friends.
Most of the time, the kids are actually nice kids, but they have tried everything to get through to their parents, but it's to no avail. The parent or parents are plain and simply, abusers.
I've noticed that a lot of people of the baby boom generation don't exactly treat their kids right. Judging from the parents of my peers, and even from personal experience.
Could this be the reason why, kids I grew up with, that had so maybe positive influences, and acted with so much love, are now turning to drugs, and given up on what they were?
I believe they had such high hopes, and certain people tried to destroy them. It's the only thing that makes sense.
Although with me, i'm sure there are many other people out there from my era, that are still willing to fight and show who they are, and what they are truly made of.
Parents, as long as you listen to what your children have to say, there is no reason for them to resort to drugs. And if they still turn out to be bad... well then, the only explanation, is that they are possessed by the devil... lol.
KNOW your kids, and treat them as for who they are. Thats all they could ever ask for.
- Joey JcM