The best defense against the hardships of love, is to make sure you always stay honest with yourself. It is your job to identify every SINGLE thing about someone that is unattractive to you, if you find yourself interested in them in that certain way.
Too many people get too excited too quick, and try to ignore the things that they don't like about someone. That is a very ignorant move, because eventually those truths will come out one way or another, in some form or fashion, maybe sooner then later.
No one is going to be the perfect person, there is no such thing. But it is very important to recognize all the negatives in someone that you are "feeling" for. "Spending your life" with someone is an extremely serious thing. No matter how you may feel about another person, if you are honest with yourself, and find that the things about them that are unattractive to you wind up being too much salt for you to truly swallow, it's probably not a good idea.
I recently had a situation where I had a girl that was everything I wanted. Everything was just in place, and I was completely satisfied. In the end though, she made it clear that she was dedicated to a certain way of life that I couldn't be a part of. So no matter how many goods there were, the negatives wound up being way passed the line.
Some people may continue down a path such as this, and this is when you get people who are truly not happy, and aren't being honest with themselves, and they need negativity, and drugs constantly, to try to constantly keep their mind off of the reality that they created for themselves.
This is why in the end the happyness is not the deciding factor for a relationship. It must be present of course to even make a consideration, but ultimately it's the amount of negatives and things you don't like, no matter how much good there is, that will help you decide whether you should stay or... ge the FUK OUT!
- Joey JcM