No matter what attributes a person might have, a person is defined by their ultimate goal.
A person's "Ultimate Goal" is not always discovered by their words, but mostly through actions.
Quite simply, if any conflicting feelings you have, none are to be ignored. Discover what those troubled feelings are, and take care of the situation accordingly. Some just actions might lead you to loneliness. Do not be afraid of loneliness.
If cleansed of garbage you are, the positivity will see it safe to return to you. This sacrifice is necessary to show if your "main goal" is worth the positive energy returning to you. If not, it has plenty of kind and beautiful people to occupy
- Joey JcM